I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that you may know him better.
It’s time for a paradigm shift.
Release the old marriage and step into a new relationship.
Daily I grow ever more aware of the power of our spoken words and how they affect the spiritual realm. As sons and daughters of God, our voice is our greatest weapon of offense. But our words also carry consequences which release havoc into our lives. Most of the time we are unaware we have become the saboteurs of our own happiness and marriages.
Label or category: From the original Greek kategoria, “accusation, prediction, noun from kagegorein “to speak against, to accuse,” assert, predicate,” from kata, “down to.”
We have categorized the very family we love with accusations of unbelief, insignificance, and out of arrogance or ignorance, our labels speak “down to” the very person God is asking us to elevate and love.
When we categorize a person into labels such as unbeliever, an atheist, a criminal, lazy, loser, etc., unbeknownst to us we asserted an accusation against them in the spiritual realm. Upon doing so, we instantaneously and unknowingly forfeit our influence in their life because a wall of accusation is constructed.
We become unable to view them through the eyes of Christ. And we have dishonored them because we can’t get past who they are currently.
Let’s catch our words and ask the Lord, “God, who is this person? What do you see when you look at them?” And when we choose to let go and reject our view through filters of religion, societal norms, family history, and cultural constructs, the walls crumble, and we see the truest part of the person in front of us. And then when we catch a glimpse of what God beholds and adores, this intentionality changes our heart and our prayers. It opens up influence.
Make a conscious choice to reject the lies of judgement, labels, accusation. We are not embracing their sins or failures. We are opening love and a viewpoint where trust and influence is born.
Father, in the name of my Savior, Jesus, I repent from all judgement, labeling, and misconstrued opinions birthed of the demonic realm. Please forgive me for any and all words spoken that create a wall between my husband (others) and myself. Wash these sins with the blood of Jesus and remove them from my permanent record.
Father, open my eyes, physical and spiritual, allow me to perceive my husband and others as you see them. It’s my desire to understand and honor them properly. Show me their innocence and reveal their pain, the deceptions that bind them, and grant me revelation to enable me to love them into your wholeness. In Jesus’s name, amen.
This is the beginning of influence because all judgement is gone. Preconceived ideas or categories are replaced and this human before us is fully available and viewed in the eyes of perfect love.
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.
1 JOHN 4:18
Release Your Old Marriage
He said to her, “Daughter, your faith has healed you. Go in peace and be freed from your suffering.”
MARK 5:34 (NIV)
Several months ago, I was on the prayer team as we walked a woman through emotional healing from infidelity in her marriage. As I listened to our team leader gently lead this woman through an amazing healing prayer, I scribbled down the prayer and knew it was from the Holy Spirit.
Marriage is challenging in different seasons. When we say, I do, two immature, naïve, and broken people join their lives together. Then the children arrive and it’s somewhere in the middle where most married adults then try to unwind the differences, heal from the past, and move into a future together. It’s hard. And it’s glorious at the same time.
I’m sharing a simple prayer for marriage. I’m going to model this prayer as though I’m praying about my husband. Adapt this prayer for your marriage. Allow Jesus to heal you and realign your heart and marriage.
Start with a journal, ask the Lord to settle his presence around you. Then ask Jesus to help you as you seek answers. Then pray something like this:
Jesus, I forgive my husband (wife). I forgive him because at times, he has made it unsafe to love him. (This is where you would tell the Lord about hurts or sins where you were made to feel unsafe or hurt.)
Jesus, I surrender the old muddy lenses I’ve used to see my husband. (Visualize yourself handing them over.)
Give me new lenses to see my husband exactly as you see him. (Write down what you perceive.)
Lord, what is the truth about my husband? (Pause and listen, then let the Holy Spirit speak into your heart. Write down what you hear. Linger here and allow the Lord to impress upon you his truths regarding your spouse.)
Jesus, is my husband is worthy of love? Is he worthy of respect? (Listen and allow these statements to take root in your heart.)
Jesus, what is your favorite thing about my husband? (Listen)
Jesus, what do you want to do through my husband?
Jesus, what do you want me to do regarding my husband?
Jesus, show me how you are protecting me as I love my husband.
Jesus, is there anything you want me to know about my husband and our marriage?
Move through these questions slowly, allowing the Lord to reveal previously unknown facets of your life, marriage, and spouse.
Pray with expectation because our prayers are accelerated in this season. Hugs. Lynn